Create Safe, Empowered, and Joyful Relationships
Blooming Relationships
Supportive, fulfilling relationships after trauma are possible.
Are you a trauma survivor that longs to be seen, understood, and supported in relationships?
Is your past trauma constantly making an appearance in your new romantic relationships & friendships?
Do you want to break the damaging cycles of your past trauma and find safety and empowerment in relationships now?
I created the Blooming Relationships Course for you!
Sophie’s Course Experience:
“Emmy has truly created a safe space for reflection and growth with this course The prompts provide space to reflect on my experiences while the lectures provide tangible tools and exercises to take small steps toward nurturing, safe, and fulfilling relationships. Whether you’re someone who struggles with trust or someone who struggles with creating boundaries, there is something in this course for you. Insightful, nourishing, and empowering!”
Imagine for a moment…
How would you show up in relationships if you were no longer hiding who you are to try to be worthy of love?
How would you feel if you were no longer listening to the messages of past trauma that tell you you’re bad, broken, or “crazy”?
How warm, how joyful, how empowering could relationships be when you walk into them as your truest self – without ignoring the pain you’ve been through?
How incredible could connection feel when you are resourced and expanding your capacity to be your truest self?
What would life look like if you were able to show up in relationships with authenticity and integrity instead of walking on eggshells or constantly questioning if you’re good enough?
That’s what I’m here to help you discover.
While we might want to forget our past and leave it behind us, until we address our trauma and start the healing process, our past will continue to haunt us.
I know because I’ve been there.
When I left my abusive relationship, I barely knew what I had just survived. All I knew is that I was free. All the messaging I heard was I should just forget about it and move forward, so I did the best I could. What ended up happening, though, was I was left repeating the cycles of codependency, victimhood, and toxic relationship patterns until I finally addressed the trauma that was lurking beneath every decision I made. When I finally started to realize that what I had been through was still affecting me, I began the long process of figuring out exactly what trauma is, how it changed my brain, and how I can commit to a truly healthy relationship, which as a concept was confusing and foreign. While this work took me years of research and implementation, it doesn’t have to take you that long.
In the Blooming Relationships course, you will learn everything I know about what it takes to have a safe, supportive relationship after surviving abuse. Over the course of 6 modules and 16 hours of video lessons, we will cover the elements of Nervous System Regulation, Trust, Communication, Discernment between Red Flags and Triggers, Attachment, Boundaries, and Ongoing Healing Techniques that have led me from repeating my role as a victim and martyr to stepping into the empowered, respected woman I am today.
Why I Made This Course
A lot of what is presented to us in the media about relationships glamorizes dysfunctional dynamics such as codependency, possession, dramatic highs and lows, and chasing after emotionally unavailable people. At the same time, as a trauma survivor, you might look around and not recognize your unique problems being addressed in self-help books or other relationship advice. A trauma-informed approach is critical if we are to be a part of a relationship that makes us feel safe, connected, and truly loved for who we are.
In the Blooming Relationships course, you will learn how to communicate your feelings, needs, and desires, how to trust yourself and open up enough to let deserving others earn your trust, how to discern between what is a red flag and what is a trigger, and how our attachment styles can cause us to perpetuate traumatic dynamics. You will learn how to navigate the tricky topics of sex and intimacy after trauma and release shame around feeling broken or bad because of who you are. You will learn healing techniques I use personally and with clients to support the ongoing process of healing from trauma.
You will walk out of the course knowing the best ways to honor your experience, show up as your authentic, imperfect, and complete self in your relationships, and walk the path of healing while maintaining strong connections to others.
NOTE: This is the last time I’m offering this course. After 4 years and 8 cohorts, I’ve decided to open enrollment to Blooming Relationships Course for the final time this month. If you’re ready to dive in, now’s the time 💛
What’s Included in Blooming Relationships?
Over 16 hours of video lessons organized into 6 modules to learn from at your own pace.
A comprehensive workbook for each module of the course, including powerful healing exercises and self-inquiry journal prompts to help you reflect and process the material.
2 live group Q&A calls to connect with the group and be supported by Emmy.
3-month free trial to Blooming Together Community Membership – a private community for trauma survivors.
BONUS content: Choosing Rest in a Culture of Busy training, and the Blooming Forward Daily journal guide, Breaking the Cycle Workshop.
Sliding scale pricing ranges from $275-$550 USD, with payment plans available for all pricing options.
What students have said…
The main ways this course helped me are…
“It helped me to understand my body and how trauma has played a part in the way I have responded and lived in life leading up to this point.”
My main takeaways from the course were…
“Using discernment and spotting red flags, understanding attachment styles, strategies to heal, how to communicate and set healthy boundaries.”
My favorite part of the course was…
“The videos. You have a very nurturing tone and the content was so helpful.”
Read more testimonials below!
What's Covered In Blooming Relationships?
Module 1: How Trauma Impacts The Nervous System
Blooming After Trauma Healing Framework, my approach to trauma recovery.
How trauma impacts the body, mind, and spirit.
How our nervous systems are impacted by trauma, and how that impacts our relationships.
Module 2: Healing Trust Issues with Self And Others
How trauma breaks self-trust, and how to reclaim an inner confidence and trust of self.
How trauma impacts our ability to trust others, and how to start trusting others who earn it.
BONUS lesson added Spring 2024: Know Your Truth and Let Them Be Them: how to release control over yourself and others so deeper connection can build - or so you can make a choice to walk away.
Module 3: Developing Strong Communication Skills
Obstacles to strong communication for trauma survivors.
How to talk about your feelings, needs, and trauma without shame.
The 4 tenets of strong communication: consent, vulnerability, respect, and consistency. How to sustainably implement these concepts for a supportive, empowered relationship.
BONUS lesson added Spring 2024: Authenticity and Agency in Communication: how to make space for imperfection in relationships without sacrificing your sense of choice, power, and agency.
Module 4: Creating Healthy Boundaries For Interdependent Relationships
Understanding enmeshment, anxious attachment, and lack of boundaries.
Understanding barriers, avoidant attachment, and rigid boundaries.
How to cultivate interdependence, boundaries, and balanced relationships.
How to navigate sex and intimacy after trauma to find both safety and pleasure.
BONUS lesson added Spring 2024: Attachment Styles as Strategies: how to see insecure attachment styles as ways we learn to get our needs met instead of fixed ways of being.
Module 5: Discerning Between Red Flags In Relationships And Triggers
How to detect and address red flags in relationships.
How to navigate and cope with triggers in relationships.
How to discern between intrusive thoughts and intuition.
BONUS lesson added Spring 2024: Green Flags in Relationships: 10 things to look for when dating, making friends, or building other forms of healthy relationships as a trauma survivor.
Module 6: Healing Techniques for Ongoing Trauma Recovery
Taking stock of the past, owning your truth, and letting go of shame.
Radical self-care as a rebellion against trauma.
BONUS: Breaking the Cycle Workshop, Choosing Rest in a Culture of Busy Training
Envisioning the future and moving forward towards safe relationships, even if you've never experienced one before.
When does it start?
You will receive access to the course immediately upon enrolling. You can move through the course at your own pace, in private, for optimal safety and regulation. You’re also welcome to share the course with a partner or loved one, if you wish!
I will host 2 live group support and Q&A calls: one in November and one in December. They will be recorded and available for replay for all who sign up for the course.
All materials can be accessed on a smartphone, computer, or tablet.
Enrollment closes on October 30th.
This is the final chance to join this course, so if you've been thinking about it, now is the time!
How much does the course cost?
I offer this course on a sliding scale from $275-$550, with 3 and 6-month payment plans available for all tiers.
I am a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach, Somatic Practitioner, writer, speaker, and educator. As a survivor of an abusive relationship that left me with complex PTSD as a young adult, I have a wealth of knowledge and lived experience that informs my work.
I know when I was recovering from my abusive relationship, I felt like no one in the world understood what I was going through. It took time, dedication, and so much research to eventually realize that everything I was experiencing was not due to a flaw in my character or willpower, but due to the residual trauma my body had carried. I consider it my mission in life to make this information and post-traumatic growth methodology accessible to as many people as possible. I made this course for all survivors who want to understand what a supportive relationship is, and know that they can be a part of one, without being shamed for who they are or where they’ve been. Your past trauma does not define your future.
About Emmy
Training and Qualifications
In addition to the lived experience of surviving and healing from an abusive relationship, Emmy is certified as a Trauma Informed Coach through an ICF-accredited program provided by the organization Moving the Human Spirit.
She is a certified Level 1 NARM Practitioner. NARM is a modality for working with complex trauma.
She has a Somatic Attachment Therapy Certificate from The Embody Lab and has received somatic mentorship from them since March 2023.
She also has training in Sex, Desire, and Relationship Issues from leading sex experts Emily Nagoski, PhD and Tammy Nelson, PhD.
Student Testimonials
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Student Testimonials •
Over 480 students have enrolled in the Blooming Relationships Course since 2020.
The following testimonials were written by students of Blooming Relationships and are shared with permission:
“As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I was incredibly nervous to enter into another romantic relationship. At one point, I thought I would never trust another human again… I couldn’t even trust myself. BRC gave me a framework to apply to my relationships that made me feel safe. It helped me trust myself first, then learn to trust others when they prove that they are trustworthy. BRC helped me take back my power! If you’ve been through trauma and are struggling with relationships, or just want to learn how to form a deeper connection with loved ones, TAKE THIS COURSE! Emmy is incredible. You won’t be disappointed! ”
-Alexis F.
“Emmy, this course changed my relationships forever. All of them. My friendships, my romantic relationships, even relationships with families. I didn’t realize how touched all my relationships were by trauma and hardship. I had no idea all the ways I was judging myself for my own involuntary emotional reactions. I didn’t know how much I needed this course until I was in it. I feel healthier and kinder and freer because of your kind and insightful and patient teaching and all I can say is, thank you.”
-Anonymous Course Student
I am finding Blooming Relationships to be a necessary part of my healing journey. This program takes a deep dive into relationship trauma and healing that complements my weekly therapy sessions really well. I'm learning so much from Emmy and having aha moments throughout the course that I wish I'd had a long time ago. I found the live group calls to be incredibly invaluable. I learned so much through everyone's shares and felt very connected to everyone in the group. After starting the course, I realized I wasn't quite ready to go through it all at once, so I appreciate the self-paced format so that I could take my time. I LOVE the workbooks! There's so much high-quality content in this course that I don't want to forget, so being able to print the workbooks ensures I can revisit the material in the future. The workbooks are very well-made and helpful both for reference and for working through the concepts. This course is really helping me to acknowledge and work through all my fears about new relationships, as well as giving me the opportunity to learn what healthy relationships and communication look like - something I didn't learn growing up or in past relationships. I highly recommend this course. Emmy is so knowledgeable and personable and is the perfect gentle and reassuring voice to encourage you on your healing journey.
-E.B.
“The Blooming Relationships course helped me to recognize the many ways trauma has impacted and shaped my way of thinking, and my behaviours in relationships. It provided me with the language to finally verbalize the thoughts and feelings I had been experiencing. Most importantly, the course gave me the tools to address and respond to these issues and emotions. As well as a community of support. I really enjoyed learning about attachment styles and understanding how I relate to others. The polyvagal theory was another favourite aspect of mine. So interesting and applicable to everyday life. Partnered with attachment styles, I really got a better understanding of myself. I also enjoyed the community aspect and group calls. So nice and supportive hearing from others who have similar experiences.”
-Laura F.
“Emmy has been an absolute rock for my trauma recovery. She taught me how to find compassion for myself rather than be stuck in the constant repeating cycle of shame. Her framework has been the foundation of my healing and trauma recovery. The internal and external have both dramatically shifted. I feel excited for life again. I am able to sooth myself when triggers arise. And most importantly, the relationship with myself has become peaceful.
Forever grateful for the work we have done together.”
-Coco
“Learning more about the polyvagal theory and factual evidence of trauma was life-changing. Emmy does this beautifully! Finally having the words for certain experiences I didn’t have the words for has given me so much more clarity and ease in my healing process. My self-compassion has increased so much since I began the course! I owe part of that to Emmy and your shame-free approach. The self-talk I’m having these days is so much healthier and honest!”
-Lorraine G.
“[During the Blooming Relationships Course,] I re-wrote some shame stories that had been holding me back for years. In general, reducing the hold that shame had on me was the biggest impact. I had read and followed different sources of trauma education and was able to take what I knew on an intellectual level and actually “download” it and feel that it was true. It was so refreshing to have a nonjudgmental approach when the reigning (although changing) narrative is just that you are only struggling because you are codependent (a label that feels like a static, unchangeable character trait). The perspective around shame was similarly groundbreaking for me. It made me realize how insidious it is. I was also grateful that you included societal sources of trauma IE racism etc bc the wellness industry can be so gaslighty and spiritual bypassy.”
-Justine B.
“The Blooming Relationships Course allowed me to finally understand that the symptoms I kept showing were as a consequence of my trauma experience, that I wasn’t ‘broken’ but on the contrary it was just my body doing its best to survive. It felt good knowing I wasn’t alone. [I liked] the way it was structured, it was easy to follow and complete.”
-Liz E
This course helped me in so many ways! Primarily putting words to feelings and experiences that have overwhelmed and troubled me for so long. I feel that with a better understanding of my problems, I can better address them and find solutions that work for me. I also appreciated Emmy as the course leader, your gentle nature and willingness to share your own personal experiences made this course personable, approachable, and safe!
-Victoria A.
"I wanted to explore how my recently discovered trauma from my past might be affecting my romantic relationships. I learned to define a lot of things for myself that were fuzzy before. Like clearing up I have a mixed attachment style with multiple roots for why. Also understanding that my trust issues with others is more pronounced than I had realized. And learning better to integrate parts of myself and allow multiple feelings to exist around one event."
-Lisa K.
“This course has helped me in that I am become more open to feeling my emotions. I no longer judge myself for feeling them. I am more aware of myself when I don’t express myself well so now I’m more likely to catch myself and elaborate on what I am trying to say. My main takeaways were allowing myself to feel and to implement boundaries.“
-Anonymous Course Student
“Emmy, Thank you so much for this course. I think you were sent to all of us for a reason to help us learn, grow and heal from whatever trauma we went/are going through. I will never forget this program and so appreciative for you and your tools to navigate through this crazy life. I have been way more mindful with my words/actions/not living in the past because of your course. Thank you for being vulnerable with us and listening without judgement.”
-Jess P
“I love your course! It’s so helpful!! I’m still listening! And will need to listen to it a lot of times!! I love the worksheets and I love to look at the trauma not as something to overcome but a lifetime journey to heal…thank you!! Glad I found you and that you were so caring and willing to help!!!”
– Elle E.
What you can expect from taking the Blooming Relationships Course…
There are so many different ways trauma shows up in our relationships. This course is here to demystify these topics and leave you feeling informed, capable, and ready to be an equal part of a healthy relationship, even while you’re still healing from your trauma.
This course is not…
A substitute for psychotherapy (although it can go well alongside therapy!)
A magical cure that will make you instantly heal from trauma (sorry, doesn’t exist.)
A way of being diagnosed with any mental illness.
This course is…
A guide for how to have supportive relationships after trauma, no matter what you’ve been through, presented through video, audio, and written formats.
A way to connect with Emmy & other like-minded people who are facing some of the same obstacles as you. Community is critical to healing.
A series of practices and tools to assist you in your trauma recovery journey – within and outside of relationships.
A resource you can access forever, so there’s no rush or pressure to go any faster than you and your schedule have the capacity for.
Everything I’ve learned that has helped me break the cycle of trauma and go from a depressed, anxious, codependent victim to an empowered, confident, and happy partner.
This course taps into the innate survivor power that once kept you alive, to help you transform into the version of yourself that thrives in stable, supportive relationships.
By flipping the script on concepts such as shame, gaslighting, and self-betrayal, you will learn how considering who benefits from your distrust of yourself can help you move into self-acceptance and self-love.
The abuser/oppressor wins when we continue to hold ourselves back from the loving, empowered relationships we deserve because we think we’re “too damaged” from the past.
This course will empower you with the knowledge of why you’re already capable of the supportive relationships of your dreams, even if you’re still working on healing from trauma.
Course Registration
The course is open for enrollment for the final time until October 30th, 2024.
I provide sliding-scale pricing for those who want to join Blooming Relationships but face financial or systemic barriers. If you think this course could help you, please enroll at the sliding scale rate that works for you, no questions asked.
Please note that all sales are final and refunds will not be given due to the digital nature of the course.
If you'd like to pay with PayPal or Venmo instead, please email me @ bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com
Full Price:
$550
33% Off Tier
$363
50% Off Tier
$275
My Intentions & Approach
This course is rooted in a trauma-informed approach.
As a trauma survivor myself as well as a trauma-trained practitioner, the practice of being “trauma-informed” is incredibly important to me.
This means that this course is rooted in…
Trauma theory. There are a LOT of relationship books, courses, and podcasts out there. This one is different because it’s specifically created for trauma survivors. Utilizing my training as a coach and practitioner, I share trauma education to help you better understand your body, mind, nervous system, and relationships. Knowledge is power, and I strive to explain psychoeducation in a way that is accessible and easy to understand.
Compassion. Instead of viewing your past or present self with shame, you’ll be encouraged to bring curiosity and compassion to your wounds and present-day behaviors. This helps create a feeling of safety within the body that supports the healing process. You will never be shamed for who you are; in fact, you’ll be encouraged to see the beauty and goodness within yourself, even if you aren’t perfect.
Consent and Autonomy: This course is self-paced for a reason. It allows you to access material at a time and pace that works for you. You’ll be encouraged to take breaks to let things sink in. You’ll be able to say no or walk away if anything feels too triggering in the moment. You’ll be able to focus on the workbooks, videos, or audio, depending on your learning style. You’ll be able to apply what you’re learning to your life instead of needing to fit into a mold to achieve the results you want. In live calls, you’ll be able to participate in a way that works for you- camera on or off, watching the replay, or being there live.
Authenticity and Integrity: I’ve experienced profound shifts when I stop pretending to be someone I’m not, and I have a feeling you might do the same. I think, as trauma survivors, we are encouraged to spend so much time masking and pretending to be okay when we’re not. I find this damaging and unproductive. Throughout this course, you’ll be encouraged to find ways to accommodate your needs and approach relationships in a way that actually works for you.
The hype is real:
Enrollment closes (and the course retires) on October 30th.
If this is feeling like a "YES" to you, I'd love to see you inside Blooming Relationships.
Have any questions or want to make sure it's a good fit for you? Check out the FAQ below, and feel free to email me at bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com - I'm happy to help!
Frequently Asked Questions
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Frequently Asked Questions ○
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Absolutely not! I made this course as a guide for relationships of all kinds, not just romantic ones. In addition, this would be beneficial for single people looking to create better relationships in the future, people who are currently dating and want to make sure they’re equipped with the knowledge to feel safe and empowered in relationships moving forward, or those in long term relationships who want to strengthen and grow as a partnership.
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This is a self-study course with 16+ hours of pre-recorded videos, as well as workbooks for each module. It is available to be watched entirely on your schedule.
In addition, we will have 2 group support and Q&A that will take place in November and December.
These calls will be recorded and available for replay & you’ll have the chance to submit your questions beforehand.
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The course aims to provide a supportive environment where you can explore your experiences and learn effective coping strategies. Through the lessons, you'll gain insights into understanding trauma and how it affects your life and relationships. Each video lesson is designed to be concise and directly applicable, making it simple to absorb the material at your own pace. The accompanying workbook serves as a valuable resource for reinforcing what you've learned, ensuring that you have everything you need for easy reference.
The two live group coaching calls offer an opportunity to engage with me and other participants, allowing for shared experiences and collective growth. This aspect of the course adds a personal touch, as you will be part of a community of survivors who understand the journey you are on. As you progress, you will develop the tools necessary to cultivate and maintain healthy relationships in various areas of your life, empowering you to embrace your identity as a survivor
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FOREVER!! Another benefit of this not being a fully live course, you will have access to all the materials – the videos, workbook, and bonus exercises – forever through the course portal. Yay!
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This course is different from many other relationship resources out there because it is trauma-informed. As a trauma survivor, I know our “relationship goals” might be very different from others. The obstacles we face with trust, communication, boundaries, and triggers are different than others may face. This was made for trauma survivors, by a trauma survivor and certified trauma-informed coach, because I care about your ability to create safe & empowered relationships, no matter what you’ve been through in the past.
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This course isn’t specific to a certain type of trauma, but it is most tailored to folks who have experienced relational, developmental, and/or interpersonal trauma. Examples of these include:
Abusive relationships or families of origin.
Dysfunctional, toxic, or chaotic relationships.
Emotionally immature parents/families/relationships.
Bullying or rejection in friend groups.
Religious trauma.
Emotional neglect.
Being made into the scapegoat or “problem child.”
Medical trauma.
Experiences that have resulted in a sense of shame, isolation, or repetition of dysfunctional dynamics in relationships.
Not sure if this course will be supportive for you? Email me and we can chat about it! bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com
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I provide sliding-scale pricing for those who want to join Blooming Relationships but face financial or systemic barriers. If you think this course could help you, please enroll at the sliding scale rate that works for you, no questions asked.
The full price of the course is $550, and sliding scale prices are offered at 33% and 50% off this price. 3 and 6 month payment plans are included for all pricing tiers. Early bird pricing is 20% off all pricing tiers and is available until October 9th!
All pricing tiers include:
16+ hours of video lessons to learn from at your own pace
A workbook for each module of the course
2 live group support and Q&A calls
3 months within my community membership, Blooming Together
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Due to the digital nature of the course, I do not issue refunds. Please be sure to read through all the details before purchasing to make sure it’s a good fit for you. If you’re still not sure, feel free to email me @ bloomingforwardnow@gmail.com and I’d be happy to answer any of your questions!
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Nope! While I am a bisexual cis woman in a relationship with a cis man, this course is here for anyone looking to have safe and supportive relationships after abuse and trauma. The language throughout the course is intentionally non-gendered as much as possible in order to be inclusive of all those who desire help in the areas this course covers.
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After hosting this course 2x a year since 2020, I've decided to retire it after this round. So this is your last chance to join Blooming Relationships for the foreseeable future.
You deserve the kind of relationships that make you feel seen, safe, and supported, no matter what you’ve been through.
Disclaimer: This course is an educational resource, and is in no way intended to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, or any other type of therapy, or medical advice. A trauma-informed coach is unable to diagnose any medical conditions; if this is a concern, I advise you to seek help from a Medical Professional, such as a licensed psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist. Results are not guaranteed and any actions you take, and the consequences thereof, whether real or imagined, are entirely your own. I accept no liability for anything that should arise from the use of the information on this site or the engagement of my services.