Affirmations For Relationships After Trauma
I wanted to share a couple of reminders that you might need to hear when it comes to life and relationships after trauma. Feel free to let them sink in, perhaps write them down on a post-it note or in your journal if they resonate.
You deserve relationships that allow you to soften instead of requiring you to armor.
When we're in environments that cause trauma, we often have to harden, amour, and tense up to get through it. When we're in safe relationships, we might feel like we're finally allowed to soften up and relax on a deep level.
You deserve relationships that support your self-worth instead of tearing it down.
A core part of the abuse I experienced in a romantic relationship was having my self-worth slowly demolished over time. From subtle humiliation to outright verbal abuse, I was made to feel like a worthless object unless I could do what he wanted me to do.
Here's a reminder that you deserve to be with people who build you up and make you feel lovable, not worthless and miserable.
You deserve to feel safe, not scared.
Even in the safest relationships, we feel scared sometimes. Opening up is scary. Connection can be scary after trauma. But in general, healthy relationships will help you feel safe, not threatened or in danger.
You deserve to feel seen, not dismissed. Heard, not silenced.
Your thoughts, needs, feelings, and opinions matter. Really, they do. Healthy people to be in a relationship with will show you that through both what they say, and how they act.
You deserve to feel celebrated for your survival, not ashamed of it.
I know how much shame there can be in being a survivor. We might blame ourselves for what happened - for the red flags we didn't see, for the ways we behaved, for what we allowed to happen. But here's a reminder - you survived because you are powerful. You cannot change the past, but you can create a better future for yourself.
If these things feel foreign or not quite right, I hear you.
If you're wanting support to help these words sink in and become a tangible reflection of your life, I want to remind you of my course that is currently open for enrollment: Blooming Relationships.
You can learn more about the course and sign up here: https://emmymarie.com/blooming-relationships
